I 'chop' that seat.........with......my tissue...!!

Went to a foodcourt with a friend in town for lunch one day, and we have the habit of getting seats before buying our food, so our 'radar' was on, looking around for empty seats. I spotted a few in the corner so i made my way there, to my disappointment there're bags on the seats, meaning they are already being 'chopped' (reserved). Couldn't do anything about that so we continue walking went further into the foodcourt looking for seats. There're alot more empty seats further in so we chose a seat and took turns to get our food. I went first and I pass by a table with packets of tissue paper, they're there for a reason. YES! That's how my dear fellow country men 'chop' their seats! With packets of pocket tissue! how many packets you see means how many seats are reserved. I don't know if I should laugh and be happy that we've such creative 'talent' around or not.

Reserving seats with bags I would say is OK because in it there'll be items that belong to you. But reserving seats with POCKET TISSUE?! or even a copy of newspaper. Gosh! I can't believe it, I've heard and seen discussions and pictures of this issue in hawker centers but in a food court in town? who on earth can prove that it's your packet of tissue? .Can't you kindly offer to buy for your friends or colleagues and someone just sit there 'guarding' their seat rather then get a packet of tissue to do the job? *sighz*

goin out wif someone of the opposite sex...

Can two person of the opposite sex who are not a couple go out together? Was out with a guy friend shopping for present and I bump into a group of friends at the mall. My guy friend stepped aside allowing me to catch up a little with my friends. The first question I get from them is "That's your boyfriend?" instead of "How are you doing?" or "What are you up to". Why does people always assume that two person of the opposite sex are a couple when they're being seen together? But we are not even holding hands or showing any signs of intimacy, we're just walking next to each other and having a conversation. Or the usual question I get if the guy friend I was with walked away would be "hey! Why is your boyfriend so unfriendly? aren't you gonna introduce himto us?"

Went out with my guy cousin who is 4 years younger than me on a few occassions and met my friends once. The usual question came and my answer was "no, he's my cousin" and the reply I got was "oh!I thought you're into such young guys nowadays" I was like speechless. Heuristics cause people to pass judgements that way? Whether or not the 'couple' is showing any 'signs' of being a couple, people just passed the judgement that two person of the opposite sex are a couple. Sometimes it's just so annoying.

If....what if....

Had a talk with a friend, and she just broke off with her 3rd boyfriend, A. Naturally she was quite upset, but she felt that she could not go on further with this guy because she haven't gotten over her 2nd boyfriend, B, whom broke off with her for 8 months. She asked if she had done the wrong thing by accepting A in the first place, and that she was thinking if she didn't accept A would B think that she is still waiting for him and would he come back to her. All the 'If' and 'what if' questions came, these counterfactual thoughts, it's interesting how it affects a person's emotions. She expresses upward counterfactual thoughts, wondering if they would get back together if she had remained single and waited. Upward counterfactual thoughts, it often arouse negative emotions, this is really true as she broke down after.

Seeing this reminds me of my past relationship as well. It has been 6 months, yet at the back of my head i still think, "If i haven't thrown my temper that day, would we still be together", "What if I haven't agreed to the break up so readily that night, would things be different now?" These upward counterfactual thoughts really arouses negative emotions.

However, being very hopeful, I'm sure the day will come when the both of us could have a downward counterfactual thought of "If he hasn't been so firm on the break up, I wouldn't have met this guy now" *laughz*